Our beliefs impact our behavior. Our behavior may become distorted by believing these two myths of marriage:
Myth #1: My spouse expects the same thing from marriage that I do. In truth, we enter into marriage with unspoken rules & unconscious roles.
Myth #2: My spouse will make me whole. In truth, our spouses should compliment us but only Jesus can complete us. If you try to build intimacy with another person before getting whole on your own – all your relationships become an attempt to complete yourself.
How to get healthy (Ephesians 3:17-4:3)
1. Profound Significance: Our relationship with God
2. Unswerving Authenticity: Our relationship with self
3. Self-giving Love: Our relationship with others
1. Clarify Content
2. Reflect Feeling
1. Men use conversation for “report talk”; women use conversation for “rapport talk”.
2. Men want to fix problems, women want to explore problems.
What makes you feel emotionally safe: TALQ
1. Time – get things done quick
2. Approval – value feelings over facts
3. Loyalty – resistant to change, person of habit
4. Quality – cautious, informed decisions
You don’t need to to change to be like your spouse, you need to empathize with your spouse.
1 John 4:18